It is simple: we don’t.
There is something about happiness. I spent last 2months in kind of “mid – life crises” and my inner peace and balance were just not at rendez-vous. I had this feeling that something is missing, and if I do more, live differently, move somewhere else, change everything, then I will be much better, happier. I forgot the basic spiritual truth which not only I knew, but I also teach. As long as our happiness depend on external subjects prone to change, we cannot be really happy. We can be only temporally satisfied.
So I spent hours of bad mood, hours of feeling angry with the past, and hours of planning and getting anxious about the future. I became restless and impatient. Then I was daydreaming and absent. Tired. Sleepless or taking nap in the middle of the day. I stopped to eat and lost weight. I got agitated and self-centered. My Ego was just playing all dirty games of blame and resentment, discontentment and low self-esteem. Oh yes, even the innocent remarque of my kids could make me upset or sad, even crying sometimes.
Then I had rest. I had “Mi-time”. I had silence. Not just without speech, but more importantly without the mental storm. I was able to sit again on my mat or on my chair, watch by the window the sunrise, or just close my eyes and listen to the music for one hour, sometimes more.
Then the eternal truth came back. We cannot BECOME happy. We just must BE happy. We have this capacity, this warm inner feeling of wellbeing, we all knew it at least for few moments in our life. And consciously we can bring us back to this feeling, inside, without reason, just because it our birthright!