I’m coaching currently 4 friends. All women, all mothers, all living in foreign country. We found very quickly that their first and main issue is to put their ideas into the action.
The most interesting part for me in the role of coach is to watch the mind in work. It is all about to put the limitations where we have our pure, unlimited potential. With time, education, society messages we programmed ourselves to restrict us and give into our fears. What I observe as our biggest fears?
1. Fear of failure.
We are afraid that we will not be perfect, we will not be able to reach the high of our highest expectations and we will prove to ourselves ( and others) that our deepest hidden fear of not being worthy is actually true.
We all know that Edison did not find his bulb at first try ( actually he steals it from Tesla;). And still we have a pretension to do it much better then him and succeed on the first shot. We teach our kids to go, try, fail and start over and over again… Yet we stay hidden behind our great ideas that we never try to materialise and we give to who wants to listen whole list of excuses why we cannot do it. Let me tell you: Bullsh**. If you want be authentic, if you want to educate self – reliable, free, courageous and successful kids, see yourself as successful woman ( or man) not because you are in the Forbes magazine but because you dare to try. The only SURE failure is not to dare. The true success is the inside job and if you dare to step out of your comfort zone and put your skin ” outside”, you are already authentic success; you overcome your fear.
2. Fear of success.
Oh yes, this one is coming immediately after ” what if I don’t have any client/ nobody buy my stuff. Actually sometimes it is even the first fear coming out: ” But what if I have too much clients/ too much orders and I will not be able to handle?”
Well ladies ( and gentlemen), it can happen. And I wish from all my heart that it happen to YOU, yes, to YOU!
You are actually afraid of your own greatness. Of the expansion of your being. Of expression of your gifts. What your little scared Ego would do if it could not beat you up about how little and insignificant/ unhappy/ poor little me/ victim of circumstances you are? What other nourishment would the Ego asked for? This little complaining voice in your head is well-known. What would happen if this voice is shut down? You would shine. Are you afraid of this light?
So stop excuses. Nobody is putting any limits on you except yourself. So being afraid of going ” too big” is another Bullsh**.
Let me remind you ( and me): The Ego’s job description is to keep us in the fear.
Our dreams work only when we start to work on them. How?
What your dream would be if there is no ” if”, ” but” and there is just DREAM? Many people don’t even have dreams. So get one first:)
2. Put the date on the dream.
If you put the date on your dream, it becomes Aim. And you have a direction.
3. Make little chunks of the path towards the aim.
Rome was not build in one day and you don’t climb Himalaya straight up. Define smaller steps. Then walk one step at the time. It is called PLAN.
Without action the best dream, aim and plan stay a dream. You need the energy, not even a lot, but enough to make THE first step. Then second. And with each one it will flow better. There will be obstacles and troubles. You will improvise, change the steps, sometimes go little bit back or more to left or right. Sometimes you will be stuck for while. But wherever it will lead, will be the success. You will learn on the road. You will change, transform, grow. And one day you will watch back and you will realise that all steps led you exactly where you are and you have no regrets of never work on your dreams…
I am going trough the same process right now.
Launching a company in Prague. It is new born but my idea pull together bunch of amazing people. Everybody go deep to find and realise her own gifts and dreams.
Launched Yoga at Spencer Dock. Just started. Nobody called yet. Well, maybe will.
Establishing my coaching practice. 4 clients in 2 weeks. Hey, cool!
Money? So far more investments then return. But I am already gaining money from my investment that I did 10 years ago. So let’s speak about money from those new projects in 10 years!
At the end, I have only one advice from my experiences:
Just Do It!