Relax your body and the mind will follow.
Last weeks I was working with a friend with intense shoulder and neck pain. Of course I can get into anatomic and purely physical considerations but as I had chance to spend some private time with her, I could observe her mind at work too.
There were a lot of preconceptions how things/ people should be. A lot of indirect criticism. And some words were coming up in conversation repeatedly: stress, perfect, rigid.
Well, we know that the space between where we put our target and where we feel we are ( un perfect, not good enough, not yet there…) creat huge stress in our life. It is like being being always fighting with never having a rest because when we relax we are lazy underachievers.
How our body and mind can renew, recharge battery, tape into our creativity and intuition without creating space for rest and silence?
More our mind get tense and stressed, more the body get tense and rigid. And in this frozen state of body we also freeze our emotions because we feel they hurt and make us vulnerable. As we dont want to feel ” not good enough” and look deeper behind this belief about ourselves, we put our attention outside of us, on others and on circumstances. We point the fingers away of us and we judge and criticise others.
What is interesting in this process that this critic voice is our best friend in the process of change of consciousness. If we have courage and wisdom to sit with it, observe what irritate us outside of us and what we are so fiercely judging, we have best mirror of our own shadow. We can suddenly see which side of us we are repressing. And believe me, we are always meeting exactly what we need to find out about ourselves.
So let’s start where we are. In our body, in our tensions, with our pain. It is ok. Let’s move gently first, let’s allow ourselves to feel our body and find pleasure and gratitude in the movement, instead of perfectionism and competition ( did you notice how often we compete with our own idea how we should be?).
Then relax all muscles, relax the breath, relax the inner critical voice, don’t listen to it for while. Feel the emotions and accept them. Allow different ways of being and acting of others and stay clear but not rigid about your own. And when you can take even 5 min per day to relax, all your life starts to change slowly. Can you slow down enough to notice the change?:)
Live and let live. Love and let be loved.